27 December 2014

In the Name of Selfless Love

When individuals do not realise their full potential because they put the needs of others before themselves, it can be an expression of selfless love. Yet there are many such individuals who are either inadequately appreciated, or who create unnecessary dependence.  That can lead to selfishness in others or even distress in those receiving unwarranted and inappropriate attention.


26 September 2014

Being Known as Talented

Could people face life better by identifying valuable aspects of themselves that are yet to be expressed (without resorting to a drug or diversion of one kind or another)?

I sometimes wonder how often grief for lost, wasted or unrecognised talent is misdiagnosed as clinical depression. Talent is something we cannot choose for ourselves.  Nor can we expect our own talents to be perceived by others in the way we expect.

Discovering our talents requires the support of others.  If you want to make a name for yourself as someone talented, who are you hoping will find you? 

And are you really looking to be known as talented or as merely famous?

05 September 2014

Australians, Poms and Poems

Sometimes, I have been called a "Pom" by people who are not particularly well-educated or informed.  Nor did I arrive in Australia as a Ten Pound Pom.  I am not descended from convicts.  Nor have I have ever been a "Prisoner of Mother England".

The fact is no-one really knows how the term POM came to mean English or even British.   Even so, it has been a well-known expression for many years, as an article from 1929 reveals.

Yet to say that I am a "Pom" is more revealing of the person using the term, especially as an indication of their prejudices, ignorance and lack of courtesy.  I am just as much of an Australian as anyone born here. Why do I know this?  Because when I read poetry about an Australian landscape, I know that I am part of that landscape.  When I read poetry about an English landscape, it rarely evokes a feeling of home.

27 August 2014

The Seriously Silly Name of Nominative Determinism

Academic words often make interesting subjects sound dull.  Nominative determinism itself sounds like a very serious subject.  Who would believe it is about something humorous?  I think it should be called Funnynameology.

Our given names are rarely a matter of our own choice.  I have never met anyone possessing the ability to choose their own name at or before birth or soon afterwards.  If you managed to tell your parents of your preferred name, prior to them putting something on your birth certificate, please let me know!

The funny subject of funny names is not usually referred to by most people by the mouthful of nominative determinism, but it is useful to know that term when doing a web search of the subject. If you do not yet know anything about it, then you might like to do a web search yourself for a few insights into the topic. 

Here are just a few links I found very quickly some time ago:


Wikipedia - Nominative determinism

Mental Floss - Nominative determinism

SciLogs - Nominative determinism

Crikey - Nominative determinism

BBC - Nominative determinism

London Evening Standard - Nominative determinism



09 April 2014

Inconsistent Names

Do you have a name that has been given to you but it is inconsistent with your current sense of identity?

When I lived and worked in London, I had a friend whose parents were originally from India.  My friend was even more English than me in her attitudes, speech and manners.  She had lived in the south of England all her life.  She had never been to India.  All her friends and work colleagues were of Anglo-Saxon origin.  All the activities and events we shared were very English indeed.

I now have an Italian surname.  I am not Italian.  My husband is not Italian.  He has been an Australian all his life.  Both his parents were born in Australia.  Our culture is mainly that of educated, socially aware, environmentally conscious, well-travelled, reasonably well-informed, English-speaking people.

If your name is inconsistent with your social identity, you may feel as if you are a blue rose even though everyone says you are a pink one!

25 January 2014

Identity Through Nicknames

Part of my identity derives from a name given to me by a neighbour when we were both four years of age.  She had a speech impediment causing her to say my name in a way my parents had never intended. The name has stuck - though I have long lost track of that little girl.  She moved away from where we lived sometime around the age of seven.

Odd pronunciations of names, as well as nicknames and diminutive terms of affection can linger long after our personal sense of identity has gone through many changes. How many aspects of your life are the same now as they were when you were four years old?